Why is the baby "happy and tired of the old"?

Expert Profile: Zhao Hongmei, Assistant Director of Peking University Early Childhood Education Center, Director of Teaching and Research Office, Moderator of Beijing Kindergarten Masters Studio

Case 1: The toy that I just bought for my child was thrown aside in a few days.

Every time I go to the mall, I will go to the toy store with my baby. Every time I see a new toy, the baby is also very fond of it. I can’t put it down, but after I buy it, it will not be played. Nowadays, there are a lot of toys piled up in the house, most of them are 90% new. When the waste is disposed of, it is reluctant; if you give it away, you can’t take it. It feels so wasteful.

Case 2: Don't play with your own toys, always feel that other people's toys are good.

When I take my children to the park, I will bring all kinds of toys to my baby. But after going to the park, she always likes to play with other children's toys. Some children are willing to exchange and share. Sometimes, other children are not willing to let her. When she plays, she will cry.

Experts interpret: "Hi new and old" is normal, is the development characteristics of the baby

Parents should not worry about this baby's old-fashioned complex. I don't know, this feature of the baby is caused by the adaptability of human evolution. After the baby has touched a new thing, it will show loss of attention and interest. This does mean that the baby has temporarily lost interest in the matter, but remember that this is only temporary. In this case, this is also a manifestation of the baby adapting to the new situation. If a baby does not have the ability to adapt quickly to any new situation, then it will become very sensitive and anxious, feeling that it is not around. When you are familiar with things, your baby's sense of security will naturally decrease a lot, and they are very likely to have a feeling of fear all day long.

This phenomenon, which occurs in babies, is called habituation in developmental psychology. That is, the response to a stimulus is gradually reduced due to the repeated occurrence of the stimulus. Some researchers have suggested that the most primitive way of learning for human beings is precisely the phenomenon of habitualization.

The habituation of babies relies on the fact that when a new stimulus is presented to the baby, they have an orienting response. They may be quiet, engrossed, and then experience a lower heart rate when they encounter new stimuli. When they are repeatedly exposed to this stimulus, the baby no longer has an initial directed response. If another new, different stimulus occurs, the baby will reappear in a targeted response. When this happens, we can say that the baby has learned to recognize the original stimulus and is able to distinguish it from other stimuli.

In infant perception research, the most effective behavioral measure is gaze behavior, and Fantz's “preference method” began a revolution in infant perception research. In the experiment of infant perception preference, two patterns are presented at the same time and the time when the baby looks at each pattern is measured. If the gaze time system of one child is longer than the gaze of the other object in each experiment, it means that the baby is This object shows a "preference". The significance of this experimental result is that it reveals that infants are not powerless to the external environment, at least in terms of their own attention to this aspect has certain initiative and selectivity. Habituation—The experimental procedure for the habituation method is: When a new stimulus is present, the baby is initially a strong reaction, then the stimulus is repeated, and the baby becomes familiar with it. When it is no longer new, their interest declines. The reaction is reduced, that is, habituation; when the stimulus changes and becomes new again, the baby's interest reappears, that is, to get used to it. These research methods further demonstrate that infants not only have perceptual preferences, but also have cognitive discernment and re-memory. With these keen experimental methods, the researchers found that in the aspects of auditory perception, visual perception, number perception, spatial position, and even the understanding of causality, the cognitive level of infants and young children is higher than that of previous studies. .

The researchers concluded that every sensory system in infants is likely to become habitual, and researchers use a variety of forms to examine habituation. One is to examine the changes in sucking, when the new stimulus appears, the baby's sucking will temporarily stop. The reaction and the interesting remarks made by adults to others during the meal show that the response to the knife and fork is much the same. Other measures of habituation include heart rate, respiratory rate, and changes in the baby's gaze time for a particular stimulus.

The development of individual habituation is related to the physical and cognitive maturity of the baby. Habituation is manifested when a baby is born, and matures about 12 weeks after the baby is born. When babies have difficulty in habituation, they often suggest that they have problems in their development. For example, babies may have mental retardation.

Expert advice: What should the baby do with the toy "his new and tired"?

Understand the baby's habitual characteristics, father and mother do not have to worry about the baby's "his new and tired", and then worry. Be aware that this is a common developmental feature in your baby. Therefore, when the baby is familiar with one of the characteristics of the toy or a gameplay, the mother can present another gameplay, so that the baby's curiosity and attention will soon be transferred back. Therefore, we often suggest that when playing with a baby, there are several ways to play alternately. Don't show a gameplay for a long time. Don't show all the gameplay all at once, so that the baby can't see the grounding effect is not good. Let the baby feel that the environment is too rich, lose the motivation to explore, create an emotional experience that is difficult to control, and the attention is also very easy to distract, and it is very difficult to see the dazzling feeling. If you are always in such an environment, your baby will easily feel tired.

Therefore, it is important to provide your baby with new toys on a regular basis, but at the same time, be sure to pay attention to moderateness and not exceed the acceptance range of the baby. If the baby's ability allows, know how to grasp, it is best to hand over the toy to the baby, do not let the adults have fun, the baby only has to look at the baby, it is especially important for the baby to choose a good quality toy with a high safety factor, because the baby often Do not play toys according to the rules, they often bite, smash, throw, throw toys. And they are also very good. Because of their visual characteristics, they prefer toys with strong saturation and comfort. But this is not to say that the baby must like the bright colors. They just like the colors that attract them enough to make them The color quickly recognized in the pile of toys.

Moderate, there may be some differences for different babies.

In terms of horizontal quantity, it is best to present three types of toys for the baby at the same time, which can make the baby feel rich and selective, and not too many interference factors, which affects the baby's in-depth exploration.

In terms of vertical age, the toys with good quality are chosen. The babies can play for many years. The toys that the baby plays in one or two years old, if the babies don’t like it for a while, the parents can help them collect them. . Probably when the babies are four or five years old, their imagination is amazingly rich. They will fantasize their toys into all kinds of things they like, and they will use a variety of props to play the role of various stage plays.

Therefore, the baby's "his new and tired" is not so annoying, the baby's toys can actually be played for a long time, parents can just provide these "materials" to the baby, the baby will use amazing Way to play with materials.

Hot mom share:

Xiao dimple mother zy: I usually put a part of the toy part, so that I can rotate this play, and also let the child feel that there are new toys, sometimes the child will inadvertently find the toys in the cupboard, she will be very surprised . There is also the exchange of toys with the children of the girlfriends (the two children are about the same size) to increase the freshness. This kind of toy usually plays for a long time.

Zhang Yang Menger: The best way for my family to deal with this problem is to exchange. Many mothers in the community have this trouble, so under the leadership of everyone, there are already ten babies who have participated in our team of exchange toys, ten families. The toys are enough for ten babies to play. Every time I went out to play with the children, I saw that the toys had to be bought. Since joining the team, I have spent more than a year not spending on buying toys.